Committing to a Better Life

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Committing to a Better Life

Committing to a Better Life

As women, we tend to over-extend ourselves. We go the extra mile for our aging parents, friends, spouses and especially our kids. We show up to corporate jobs well before our scheduled start time and we’re there for hours after we’re due to get off in many cases. If we’re self-employed, we put in far more hours still. We spend our weekends caring for elderly parents, ailing spouses, running kids here and there, and doing things for the community.

At best, we find ourselves in an exhausted state after taking care of everyone else. At worst, we find ourselves physically ill because we’ve run ourselves into the ground. Sometimes, we can replenish and refresh by perhaps sleeping in on Sunday morning or turning in early for a night or two. For a lot of us, that may be enough to get up and running again, only to repeat the pattern. For some of us, though, we don’t stop until our bodies force us to and sometimes, by the time we reach that point, it’s too late.

On July 21, 2009, after telling myself for months beforehand that I needed a break, I suffered a brain hemorrhage. All things around me began to crumble about six months before that time, and I repeatedly told myself, my immediate family and a few friends that I needed a break. Looking back, I realize that only about 40% of the issues that were weighing so heavily on me back then were actually mine. I, however, like many of you, allowed other people’s problems to become my own, and ultimately, I ended up in ICU for four days. Thankfully, my treating doctor was ranked number seven in the entire world for neurosurgery, so I was under excellent medical care. The one question that I was asked on a near hourly basis was, “Have you been under a large amount of stress?” Each time, I answered, “No.” After I was released and was home for a while, I realized that stress was what put me there. I, like many other women, had come to accept excessive stress as the “norm” so in all fairness, I wasn’t lying when I said no. I didn’t look at it as stress. It was just the way it was and that was the “norm” for me at the time.

After a massive amount of testing (everything from an 8-hour MRI to the angiogram that gave new meaning to humility), they could not locate a “bleed” in my brain. The bleeding that filled my spinal column to capacity was located at the base of my neck. Finally, I was given a “good” prognosis and was told that the only thing I could do was relax and eliminate the unnecessary stressors in my life. My recovery, although excruciating on most days, was very humbling. I became dependent on my husband and son to help me to the restroom. Some days, they had to feed me. Since I couldn’t even comb or brush my own hair, my husband became my personal hairstylist. I couldn’t brush my own teeth. I realize that my case was extreme and while most times, we can be replenished with a little extra rest, there are times when it can be worse. Clearly, I survived and am fully recovered, but a lesson was learned.

Help others as much as you can but know your boundaries. Learn to recognize the point where there is nothing else you can do to help and be willing to accept the fact that you’ve done all you can. Your heart, your brain and ultimately, your whole body will thank you!

Forgiving, Forgetting and Remembering

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Forgiving

Forgiving, Forgetting and Remembering

One of the most powerful acts you can perform is to forgive. It is also one of the most difficult to carry out.

Wrongs/slights take place every single second in every single sector of the world. Some of the things that hurt others are intended, some are not. In the end, whether the act is intentional or not, the resulting pain is still there. Everyone’s pain is different. Everyone’s measurement of the depth/weight of the actual deed is different. Being lied to, (more…)

In the Aftermath

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Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting

Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting

As a country, in the year 2012, we have seen some of the most atrocious acts of mankind imaginable. We also saw some of the deepest examples of goodness.

As a mother, my soul cringed at the news from Newtown. Before I knew the horrifying final number of victims, I thought to myself, “one is too many.” (more…)

Just Around the Bend…

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Just Around the Bend

Just Around the Bend…

Another Christmas has come and gone. For many, it was bittersweet. For some, it was just sad, with no sweetness in any way. For others, there was much to celebrate and enjoy.

The new year is just around the corner and most everyone is ready for it. Last year  held many tragedies, on both personal and national levels. Loss was felt on tremendous levels. (more…)

Touching, Squeezing and Pinching

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Touching, Squeezing and Pinching

Touching, Squeezing and Pinching

We all know that physical health is not just about jumping on a treadmill, StairMaster or elliptical. It’s way more than sit-ups, crunches and squats. You have to feel! Take control of your life and your health! (more…)

Raw or Cooked: Getting the Most Nutrients from Your Vegetables

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Most Nutrients from Your Vegetables

Raw or Cooked: Getting the Most Nutrients from Your Vegetables

It’s a given: vegetables are good for you and you should be eating them everyday. It’s been ingrained in our minds by our parents, teachers, and doctors all our lives! But no one ever talks about how to get the most out of your veggies. Unfortunately, we all missed the memo about there being some vegetables better eaten cooked and others are better eaten raw. (more…)

2018: New Year Resolution

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Here we are turning the corner passing the year 2017  and approaching a fresh start with 2018. Yes, 2017 had its ups and downs as does every year. On the bright side, the world didn’t come to an end and here you are once again thinking and hopefully actually planning on putting a New Year resolution into action! I’m curious to know what everyone has in mind. Please share! (more…)

Creating Buffer Zones

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At Absolute Performance our philosophy revolves around improving movement and getting stronger. From a physical standpoint, there’s not much that being stronger and moving better won’t fix – it’s the closest thing to the fountain of youth that exists.

But why are strength and movement so important? Apart from the obvious benefits of looking better and being awesome, cultivating strength and good movement creates buffer zones. (more…)

The Strength and Conditioning Archives

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What’s up everyone?  Hopefully you’re out there training hard to reach your goals.  Whether you’re an athlete, former athlete like myself, or just a gym rat, we can all benefit from increasing our knowledge of training and learning from some of the great coaches who pioneered the methods we sometimes take for granted today.  The box squat, for example, was popularized in the 1960′s at Bill West’s original Westside Barbell in Culver City, CA and is just as effective at building posterior chain strength now as it was then.  The difference is today we have the internet which allows new training techniques to spring up and spread faster than ever before.  Unfortunately, most of them are crap.

If you really want to see weight loss results then you should look out for fitness gym for women in your area. I reside in Lexington and I am very happy with my current gym.

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Massage is simple way to get relief from all stress

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Anti-Stress: A unique blend of Deep Tissue and Swedish Massage techniques are use for the whole body.  It regulates the nervous system and stimulates the blood circulation. The special blend of aroma oil is used for the technique will calm your mind and will help you to take away your stress and tension, it gives you a feeling of stress less whole being.

Thai Herbal Poultice: This is sometimes called Thai herbal massage. Heated herbal pouched are rhythmically pounded on your body.  This treatment is both relaxing and energizing. (more…)